Today in a meeting, we discussed different ways to help the "quiet people" (like they had a disease or some sort of disability) get more of a social experience.
Now I am not saying that us quiet people are super social. We arent. In fact compared to the social crowd were actually pretty unsocial. But thats not to say that we never have any social contact with the world aight? I mean I think that you social people just force your social situations on us because you dont understand why we arent being social in the first place. We maybe happen to like...ya know...we might feel accepted and comfortable with our selves...even if we arent the center of a circle of people. Just listening to others. Feel their ideas and roll them around our minds and look for their merit. We might be just making our own opinions about what we are thinking about. If we think they're are worth sharing with another person or group then if you all social people would shut your yappers a second we'd prolly spout em out. But you guys insist on insisting we have a problem.
I dont think we have a problem. I think we're just fine. I think we are just great! I dont want to say that having a social life is bad, in fact if youre picking that up then youre not getting the point. The point is that their is a gray area between too much talk and too much silence. I personally lean toward the silent side.
Yeah and it IS definitively harder to talk to a quiet person. But HELLO that doesnt mean you cant communicate with them. They just communicate differently! Like I just met this chill guy named Sam in one of my classes a week or two ago. He's pretty quiet! He doesnt have to talk alot to feel like he's communicating. He says what he means and you can figure out the rest. ( prolly the opposite of what im doing) He's nice and helpful but if youre looking for an extensive conversation about something you are in the wrong place. He takes his time with what hes going to say. With him there is no reason to rush the words out of his mouth. He takes time to consider a question and then considers it twice. Alot of people just rush out with a disconcerted "Whaaat?" before their brain even has a chance to process the words. They just say "Whaaat?" to let you know that they realize they are being spoken to.
Another example. I met a girl named Holly, she was pretty awesome. She didnt have to have a tornado of a conversation. She was kind of quiet and cool. It was kind of like she was a little disconnected, but it was very refreshing. To just be able to be yourself and go your own speed. You can relax! Some girls are just in...yo!....face! You get question after question and you feel like its just a speed interview.
In conclusion, their should be more people that think before firing off the "Whaaat?". People should relax and say what they mean. You can use less words, its not a crime. Think. Its good for you, you dont always just need to react.
I hope somebody feels a little less inclined to bash on the quiet people from now on.
Wow, you just read that!,
Taylor
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super cool!
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